A New Beginning
Two souls who have drifted apart need not be friends. In fact, they should not be friends. The more they try to be ”just friends,” and show the world that everything is great after the breakup, the longer the healing. Being friends can invariably lead to being “more” than just friends again, and when that happens, healing is abruptly put on hold to give way to what is presumed to be a promising reconciliation. Of course, the dream of a happy ending fails again, and both realize they have wasted time believing it was going to work again. What they found is that they were right the first time they decided that letting each other go and grow separately was the right thing to do.
And an estranged couple need not be enemies, either. Who would want to carry such a heavy burden and sleep each night shooting your enemies in your dreams? True, two individuals in a failing relationship may have been slugging each other into hurtful, even senseless, battles, and that is why separation is the only way out. But hate just does not have a place in the healing process.
Life is too short, we’ve heard this phrase all too often. So why prolong the agony and insist on making things work when working things out has always proven to be a futile exercise. There’s a lot more to life than being together and failing repeatedly. In fact, living separate lives, facing new challenges, forging new friendships could be the most gracious peace offering one can give the other. A clean break. A new beginning. A new chance.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ~ Joseph Campbell